The 'playlist' to undress | Column Sex with Esther

Everyone has their own musical tastes, but when it comes to bed, things are a little different. What you listen to in the car, in the shower, or to get through a traffic jam isn't always the right fit for when the going gets tough. Music isn't just a filler there: it's the invisible architect of the atmosphere. The bed, on its own, is just a piece of furniture; with the right song, it becomes a stage.

It's not the same to reach the ground floor with a heartbreaking ballad than with a soft bossa nova seeping through the walls. The former quells the urge before it even begins; the latter makes it blossom in stereo. That's why having an "undressing playlist" isn't a luxury, it's a strategy: a set of songs capable of loosening zippers, undoing buttons, and melting away rigidity long before touching a single nerve in the lower echelons.

Having an 'undressing playlist' isn't a luxury, it's a strategy: a set of songs capable of loosening zippers, undoing buttons, and melting away rigidity long before touching a single nerve in the lower echelons.

It's not about putting on background music while talking about life. It's a sound script that, when used well, can take you from shyness to ease without having to deal with the awkward "what now?" feeling. A whispering bolero that caresses from the first note, a playful son that invites you to move, a jazz that slips in like a mischievous sigh... each genre has its purpose, and it's no coincidence that the great seducers of the last century knew more about vinyl records than dating apps.

The key is to read the moment. If the night begins with a glass of wine, start with something gentle, like someone opening the door without rushing. If glances are already speaking in code, pick up the tempo to get the body to respond. And if that seems dormant, there are songs that wake it up without rushing, only with insinuations that rise in volume like the heat on the skin.

Of course, a playlist doesn't do it all . There's no point in having Miles Davis playing in the background if the mood is like the eight o'clock news. Music is a bridge, but you have to cross it. You have to dare to take the hand, let the beat set the direction, and let the ground floor feel invited to dance, not summoned to a formality.

Preparing this list is a shared responsibility: any member can take it on and turn it into their masterpiece. It's not about improvising with whatever's playing on the radio, but rather curating each track with the same care you put into choosing a good wine or dimming the lighting. It's the soundtrack to a moment that, if done right, will remain etched in your memory... and on your next playlist.

Because, in the end, it doesn't just take desire: like embers, it's best fanned with a breath in the right direction. And few things blow as well as a song that creeps in slowly, gets under your skin, and convinces your clothes that it's no longer needed.